Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I’m pretty patient in terms of waiting for sex, and am not comfortable having actual sex within the first 6 months... honestly, not even with the first year. But if i feel he’s the one, i’d prob give in sometime after the 6 month mark. I mean, my first ex didn't get it til after that and one other didn't get it until after a year and a half (because we were both trying to wait til marriage but failed lol). Still, for the 1st month or two, I am occupied with pg-13 type foreplay until then. My favorite things are kissing, masturbating eachother, getting these tits sucked, phone sex and hickeys. However, I’d consider oral after the 3 month mark. Most men these days, won’t settle for this, especially if i ever want to be considered for marriage. Most boys would, but theyre just looking to hookup. I’m fine being single but if i get in a relationship, thats all i’m willing to offer for the first 6 months until i’m comfortable and in love. So what do you yourself need in order to wait, and how long would you wait for whoever you date?
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#Scenario If you started dating someone today, whats the longest you’re willing to wait for sex and what needs to be done until then?
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Well at least a few others said they need to be in love as well. Like its the only way i can live with myself. I can't just sleep around and whoever i sleep with, i have to at least had been in love to feel less guilty for having given in before marriage... cause can that religious guilt eats away at ya
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I dont count dates. I can go on a date with you every day of 1 week. But those 7 days is not long enough for me to be in love with you. I have to be in love to have sex. And that usually takes months for me.. usually about 6+... it is what is. If he can't wait that short amount of time, then on to the next. We all got options for a reason 🤷♀️
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22 82Marriage.
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It’ll be a couple months at minimum. They’ll need to demonstrate loyalty and honesty to me, and a day prior to anything occurring, they are to be tested for diseases.
I agree. But most test results take a week.
Yeap sadly :/
At this point if something happened to my wife and I was dating again, I'd want to marry again and I'd try and wait until we say "I do" so we don't say "I did"
Thats sweet
I am totally fine never having sex in a relationship. If all we do with kiss and cuddle and that sort of thing, I'm good with that. So I guess to answer your question, there is no limit to how long I would wait.
Oh wow kinda amazing
I get a lot more enjoyment out of other kinds of intimacy.
Same
My ex was catholic so i had to be paitent while was with her. My girlfriend before that we tried it once but never again
Ohh i see
I can wait till marriage, especially if we can still do oral, I don't even need him to go down on me I just wanna go down on him.
Yes girl i love to give haha
Does doing anal keep your virginity intact?
Does it matter if you catch HIV
@jrjunior Only a hoe would do anal and still say she's a virgin
Preach queen
Lmao
It is funny somebody brought up the hoe Factor the Bible talks about when a woman knows a man meaning sexual contact
For however long it takes until after we've been married. Nothing beyond kissing until then.
So you’d marry and not have sex on honeymoon night if she wasn't ready?
I wouldn't wait too long after our honeymoon, but I'd give her some breathing room if she really wasn't ready. But a shorter time after that and I'd have to insist we have sex, it's an important part of marriage and I for one wouldn't be able to wait too long.
Thats very sweet and respectful
Thank you. I try to be. Respectful that is. I come by sweetness naturally ;P
I don't think I could put a certain number on it. I think sex is very important in a relationship but it can't be rushed. The only way I can see it as a bad thing is if they had zero interest in sex at all.
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I have no religious guilt because that stuff is ridiculous anyway. I'm Agnostic. I'd be fine with waiting maybe a monthish, but I would think after that, if we are still seeing each other regularly, I'd want to have sex. I'd wait longer if she didn't want to and I really liked her, but I'd definitely want it after about a month of dating. No sex till marriage is crazy to me. Imagine marrying someone and not knowing if you're compatible sexually. I guess this is why we have divorce.
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@systemofthemachine So even if someone is pretty smart IQ wise and with a good personality she would only be worth a month's wait? So it sounds you are just in it for sex and not into the finer things a person has to offer in a lasting relationship. The people who wait the longest and really get to know someone first are usually the ones who don't get divorced.
@JuliaStyles I agree that the people who get to know someone first and take a while doing it before marriage have a better chance of a successful one. It is what I plan to do. I'll have to live with someone a few years before I marry them. And I hope that we have plenty of sex in those years, because sex is an integral part of any romantic relationship. We would need to know if we like each other sexually, because if we don't then things won't go well and it will cause issues. I don't follow puritanical values so I don't think having sex early in a relationship is bad. I find sex fun so I'd just want to have it earlier. You should also watch your rhetoric with "she would only be worth a month's wait." I don't measure a woman's value based on how long I'd wait to do her. I measure her by her character. I love vaginas, but there are much more to women than just that.
@systemofthemachine Your last sentence is what I keep saying. Sex is not love, it's just a part of love.
@JuliaStyles Sex is not love yet it is part of love? Doesn't that mean it is love since it is a part of love? There is more to women than just sex, but sex is super important. Touch is one of the 5 major ways of expressing love and last time I checked, sex falls into that catagory.
Sex is a "perk" of love. Problem is guys call sex making love but that is a misnomer, sex is doing sex. You can have sex without love but not love without including sex.
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Lol. I believe in Marriage not date.
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Maybe you have hard time to trust people. I won't blame you for that though. The one you want is really hard to find.
I trust easily. I love easily. But i dont fall “in love easily.” And i dont have sex soon unless im in love
I agree with you I would wait for sex for least 6 months + I don't want a Woman think that she has to satisfy me all I want to do is Cuddle/ Hugs/ Kiss / Hold her close to me while I kiss her neck nothing sexual
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3-6 months
Yea not too bad
Used to be quicker but I learned a few things: - girls chemically bond after an orgasm so better to delay that bond until there are feelings - cheap sex with a stranger feels guilty and empty - sex is so much better with trust and intimacy - tons of things can be done before having sex and that slow seduction and escalation makes sex electric
Fully agree 👏
At least 3 months because I have to know him a little bit more before having sex.
Right
All that needs to be done is for me to be in love, that's it, can take months. Until then no sex
I said the same. I gotta be in love
I think you know me well enough to know I'm down for sex on the first date, and I can wait a month or so after that she's friend zoned.
Lol i dont think i expected this 😂
Lol oh well.
Friendzone you seriously I keep them in the servant Zone Stand By and be ready for my drink
I guess it'd depend on the person.
Okayy
Damn you're like a saint. To be honest back in the day I didn't wait if she wasn't interested I'd move on to the next one within hours. The crazy thing is back then I didn't have to move on but maybe twice and one was just waiting until I was 18 I guess cause I got with her as soon as I ran into her at 18. When I met my wife she didn't give it up for 3 days and I was fixing to bounce when she finally gave it up but if I was running around like that now a day's I'd rather wait around a month probably just so I could get to know her a little before or longer if she wasn't ready but you never know if all the stars lined up just perfect if could happen that first night we'd be grown so whatever
You couldnt wait 3 days...
I got up to 5 months then she took control and did it for me
Oh wow
Well I'd probably wait a couple months as well, cause for me having sex would mean it's a serious relationship cause I'd have a strong emotional connection and deep trust for it. So yeah 5-6 months seems like a good idea.
Exactly i have to be in love
Yeah I get that
I don't really get the idea of when to fuck someone, I am, and I think most guys are, very interested in getting a lover off and I provide the most physical and psychological pleasure to every lover. I am more turned on by her`arousal and getting her of as many times & is intensely as I can. That doesn't really answer your question but I did want to point out that I never think of it as transactional event. I always presume that she will enjoy sex as least as much as I do so "waiting" doesn't apply This is't any kind of bragging or ego-fulfillment, it just happens to be what I enjoy. I would never either force or insist on sex. The whole point, for me, is not to get what I could at home masturbating. It's the thrill of feeling her body shudder, . her moans, her mounting excitement, her hips thrusting & stomach clenching, I'm not going to get that reaction if I've hurried, forced, or passive-aggressive whining that might work to jet her agree to it but I;d prefer her lust,, need,, and hunger for' that's the huge turn on I get. After the 3rd date - or whatever time seem to be prolonging having sex, I would try to start a conversation about anything that might bother her. If it seems like she doe but won't talk about it, I;d tell her what my concerns are and suggest seeing a therapist if she remains uninterested.
Are you old enough to be familiar with the term, "frigid"/ That term was applied to women who had lost interest in sex. I doubt of many shrinks even asked, is the reason the fact that your husband has but on 50#, does nothing to turn you on and doesn't care about sex with him. Usually because he hasn't gotten you off in 5 years. Does nothing erotically exciting- another scientific milestone.
Types of dates matter a lot also. Meeting at a coffee shop for a Danish & a Latte has no sex looming over it, lunch + martinis & wine type date is platonic if entire office staff is there, less of a setting with erotic content, just 2 of you, stretches it. Dinner, esp expensive and a luxurious & really esp. if itls a hotel dining room in which he has a room then you better bring mace..
May I ask the thoughts/feelings behind the limit? Does the same logic apply you think women are being used even if the pleasure they receive is something that makes them desire sex whenever it seems safe?
Dos the pleasure received have any bearing on the amount of time? I prefer the company of women so I honestly now the group think that occupies male consciousness. Is their some baser reason guys use that creates antagonism?
Sorry about long response I;d love to know more
I dont count dates. I can go on a date with you every day of 1 week. But those 7 days is not long enough for me to be in love. I have to be in love to have sex. And that usually takes months.. about 6+