You can’t wait a few years? If someone isn’t willing to wait then…. They aren’t for you. People say stupid stuff like “well he may not be the one” what are you gonna get married in two weeks? You can’t wait a few years?
It’s men and women equally. I know some men and some women only blame the other sex.
I’ll share a reason I think women either don’t or maybe shouldn’t wait. I never even thought this way until I became a correctional officer for a state prison in Colorado.
there are crews of men that have earned good behavior status and get to leave the grounds during the day just like a job. Whether it’s firefighters or just trash cleanup.
however they are still prisoners with inmate mentalities. Jared to break old habits I guess. So they pick up stuff they find and try to bring back in the prison in way of keastering it. ( up the ass) cigarettes lighters etc.. so as a new offer I got the wonderful duty of checking for contraband. Me and a couple officers would line them all up facing us we shine the light on them they lift their dick then lift their balls then turn squat and cough. 🤮. Anyways I have never seen so many nasty looking weird shaped mangled disfigured looking penises in my life. Are started feeling bad for females, like how often do they come across this and can you imagine waiting all that time and then the girl sees that for her first time. She’s gonna be like damn I should have picked curtain number 3
HAHAHAHAHA well. It’s kind of the females fault if they pick and choose these men. When they have no standards.
But here is the thing. If a woman doesn’t want to wait. She will see a LOT of nasty penises. If a woman truly loves a man and vice versa. They should be able to love and accept one another for who they are. The bedroom life may take time to develop after marriage. But it’s a much stronger bond
Yeah but she can’t tell what a guys cock looks like until she actually sees it. I wasn’t trying to say just because they are inmates they’re going to have ugly D
People used to but feminism destroyed all that by unleashing female promiscuity and hypergamy. Men are only willing to wait if she's a virgin because why would I wait for marriage when Chad didn't have to?
Feminists. Yeah. Lol. They say not to objectify women. Yet tell women to be sex objects
There's a person told me that sex is like having a meal.
I disagree, and cut contact with them right away. I personally feel disgusted to touch someone I don't know.
I don't understand either why some people do that that easily without caring or thinking about potential outcomes. Plus, sharing bodies with other people? 🤢 If I plan to marry a man, I expect him to be great at self-control as well. (I'm not Christian, yet. I'm speaking of psychology and science.)
And withoout emotional connection, I think it's like using a body just to release your desire. A prostitute can do that for you.
@Tim2nice you can have views similar to those of a religious person without being religious. I share views with both political parties but that doesn't mean i have to be dem or rep. She spoke very well and reasonably
@Tim2nice I think there is something else going on there. I can appreciate her needing an emotional connection for sex but she sounds genuinely disgusted at the thought of a man’s body and God forbid he release any fluids. And the whole self control thing? No. I’ll respect the self control before marriage if I deemed the woman worthy of waiting for but after we are married it’s time to get busy. She sounds like her husband is always going to be begging for it
You have morals. Don’t let degenerates try to demoralize you. They wanna take you down with them
The morons on g@g should just stop breeding.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Pragmatism. Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment; making that before you know if you're sexually compatible is just idiotic. Meanwhile, what does it gain you?
There’s many ways to be compatible. Sex isn’t the most important thing. Later down the road after being married. If you truly love one another. You’ll respect one another’s boundaries in bed
If sex isn't the most important thing, then why would it matter if you didn't wait? And again, how are you benefited by delaying?
Because it is important once you’re married. You’re right it’s important. But. People like you. It’s above your head. You’ll never have something meaningful
I always regretted not getting to wait like i tried to. But i also hate the bullshit excuse of needing to test drive someone beforehand. People are too lazy to teach someone how to fuck them better.
No. They wanna make excuses for what they did. The fact you realize something was wrong and regret it. That means you’re not completely lost. It’s sad for those who are
It’s more of new Vs used car. Which one you want? And how used lol
Because some people don't want to or just can't. I think it also depends on what age they are too. If they're older, they might not want to wait until marriage. When I was a teen, I decided I wanted to wait until marriage but now that I'm older I'm like "I don't think I want to wait anymore." It's also because I found out for myself that you don't need marriage in order to value love & have a romantic partner that cares for you. It's just a higher commitment in your relationship. Something that you need to think very carefully about before buying rings for one another and say "OK, let's get married & get this wedding on!"
You don’t need sex to love and value your partner
That was basically my point. And that you don't need marriage for that either.
I don’t think you’re picking up what I’m putting down. But that’s typical from your type
Why does it matter to you?
There are people that distinguish sex and marriage in to separate categories or aspects. The definition of sex has changed throughout the generations and is no longer an act to be fruitful and multiply. It has now in a lot of places become an act of pleasure. Those that choose to do it before marriage are doing it an act of pleasure. Marriage is a contract between two parties. It has nothing to do with sex or even love and many realize that. So those that choose to wait have their reasons and sex for them means something completely different.
Well. Sex is important in marriage. Beyond just multiplying. But. People just sleep with whoever
And a lot of people get pleasure out of torturing someone and killing them. That doesn't make it right.
@IrishStewed exaclty. There are people who get pleasure being a pedophile or zoophile. Doesn't make it right.
🤷♀️ They probably don’t want to.
If some people had a intrusive urge to jump off a bridge they would do it.
Yes they would
Because societal values in the West have shifted with a decline in punishment for premarital sex (e. g. women would be sent to a convent, forced into marriage, or even beaten to death by their own family).
What is causing the shift? Raising skirt/dress length to reveal more of the body, women oversexualising themselves with fashion and makeup, oversaturation of pornography making it okay to sexually objectify men and women, and the biggest one among other things is. . . contraception!
Yes, largely thanks to contraception we have women more willing to have sex because the risk of unwanted pregnancy is much lower. Back in the day, if you had sex, then you'd probably end up pregnant and that is a huge burden on those unwilling/unprepared.
Times have never been perfect in this fallen world. Who said because we should wait for marriage I’m for forged marriage or any of that other stuf. But see. People stick your thumb up in the air and go along with whatever the world is. If that’s what’s society is doing. You would be sitting here defending it.
I neither defend it nor condemn it.
"Why can’t people wait until marriage to have sex?" They CAN wait, but they make a conscious decision to not wait, as is their right. You may feel that you are holding the moral high ground, but being convinced that you are on top of the hill doesn't mean that you are right and everyone else is wrong. It simply means that you have different values.
You can judge others if that makes you feel good, but there is a good source of moral authority that tells us to judge not others, lest ye be judged.
Aren’t you a Christian! You shouldn’t promote sex outside of marriage
Don’t be lukewarm
The Bible doesn't say it's wrong to have sex outside of marriage. This misconception comes from two aspects of the Bible, one being the word adultery, which refers to cheating on your wife. Which is absolutely objectively and very obviously a terrible thing, and there is also a comment somewhere that I can't remember off the top of my head where it was essentially offered as a suggestion that it is better to wait until marriage, and there was context around it as to what one would stand to gain. The Bible never promotes that there is something inherently sinful about premarital sex. Kinda like how there's only one comment in the Bible that says anything outwardly negative about being gay and it's suspiciously out of place as hell.
I didn't want to wait. I wanted to be close with him BEFORE we made any big decisions. Checking mental and physical compatibility is important. Living together before marriage gives you the confidence that nothing changes when you get married.
Lol. Is sex all that’s important? You don’t know about romantic bonds or anything else like that. You value sex over anything else. That’s why you’re probably never happy long term
Sex is a natural part of forming all those bonds, and it usually comes at the end when we are sure of the partner and can trust them. From my perspective, getting married, if we don't know if we match mentally and physically, makes no sense... because it creates unhappy marriages or divorces
Bonding, especially through compatability and emotionally had 0 to do with my dick or your puss. Everything to do with yours and my spirit together , not as two equal parts but as (one) spiritually. That's exactly why (Equality is a myth ) bc it renders the wrong spun narratives to develope the wrong truth about ourselves or others.
Why should they? What if you are totally incompatible?
I had sex with my ex when I realized I loved him and he loved me. I have never regretted.
Yeah and it seems you’re still attached to your ex aren’t you. Why can’t you make a romantic strong bond. Then when you get married. You can figure out what you both like. But if all you care about is sex. Well. That’s sad.
There is a LOT more to a relationship then sex
What an absolute load of rubbish. Stop preaching! It's your choice to wait until you're married. Congratulations, well done! It was my choice not to. Why? Because I wanted to.
And scripture imullates otherwise. It's only your choice to choose Heaven or he'll , not whatever paridym you wish to spin a different narrative to.
@Djaay what dictates heaven and hell? Is there a heaven or a hell? Its all subjective to belief
No its not subjective Your salvation of your spirit isn't subjective , it's your choice or not to save it or burn infinity for it. God gave all of humans ) choice to choose either saved salvation with eternity of life or unsaved eternity of torture while burning 🔥
If I'm going to go through the ball ache of marriage and the wedding, you bet your ass I'm going for at least a test drive first.
mate, you're projecting a lot onto a funny statement here. Wanting to test sexual compatibility doesn't mean that's all I care about. Stop shoving words into other's mouths thinking you're making a point.
It really does. Sexual compatibility? You all say a lot of dumb shit. There is a lot more important things. If you build a bond first. Beint compatible with different standards, religiously, politically, and in many other ways. But people like you. Just don’t get it. It’s why you’re unhappy. The reason you’re triggered is because obviously I’ve struck a nerve.
yawn re read last sentence. you went out of your way to comment and even make the question so seems more of you being triggered if anyone. XD probably can't handle that people get laid and you're just.. you. :) Have a good day you sad, pathetic little troll :D
Its a tough question because we should wait, especially women as it is a gift a man chases and holds great value to. Many things contribute but I think mostly its upbringing. If you are exposed to that sort of thing early, you are more likely to explore and as humans are curious by nature, we tend to want to do things that make us feel good. Society plays a big role in this too, exposing kids to sex too young and schools taking away their innocents. Its all factors.
As long as someone can be honest and realize it’s wrong and repent. That’s one thing. But yes exactly
There is also men though who want to have a lot of causal sex but marry a virgin. It don’t work that way. And women who are sexually turned on by one type of man. But want to marry another. People like that. Will usually end up cheating. And nobody really wants that
Why should they wait, not everyone wants to get married. People want to live and enjoy life. Also sexual compatibility is a thing.
Sexual compatibility is… if someone doesn’t wanna wait they aren’t the rihjt one. It’s not that when things get more serious you can’t talk about sex
Gosh people are so STUPID when it comes to sex before marriage. Just admit you want to sleep around
As I said not everyone actually WANTS to get married. Why get married, what does it actually give that is different to just living together? Sexual compatibility is more than talking about sex lol
Like buying a car you want to test drive it first & if you wait until marriage to have sex & the sex sucks or you don’t get enough of it, good luck.
Yes. I want the used car. That smells like smoke. Squawks. Stinks. And is all worn out.
Why can't people stop eating animals?
(Because i am a vegan and i have a right to judge others. Why is that? Because i know what i decided to do in life is the only right way and that's why if anyone who thinks differently is wrong, stupid, bad human being )
Not only do I like eating them I like to hunt them with the choice of one of my many rifles cause it’s my God given right and ability to do so. If you want to eat tofu good for you. I’m guessing you are being sarcastic and playing devils advocate. But just incase you’re not.
You very well may be a animal
@Whitewulf yeah same lol
they don't see a reason to wait.
So you get married, have sex and discover you're totally incompatible... Then what?
That's like buying a new car without test driving it first.
You already have a deep romantic bond and love each other very much.
That’s such a stupid analogy. Would you rather buy a new car? Or a car that’s been work out for 20 years. Or squeaks. Stinks. And hasn’t had a oil change in 10 years. Pee yew
And like I said. You can talk about sex before marriage.
Lol if you don't value sex in a relationship and prefer to wait for marriage that's fine but expecting everyone to hold that view is silly why would I wait or want my partner to wait when we both want to have a sexual connection with the other
Sure value sex later. It’s better to have a romantic connection
Yet I already have that with my partnerwhy do u think marriage is required for that lol
Also u seem the believe talking about sex is the same ad having it no matter of talking about sex will prefer u following how compatible u are with a partner or even what u like if u have never had sex
I think it's on you to provide a good reason why people should wait. In the US, at least since the 1940's, about 90% of people have had sex before marriage. "Wait until marriage" made sense when women married in their teens, and we had no effective contraception or prophylaxis. It makes no sense at all when people are marrying in their mid to late 20's.
I guess that’s why we have such a high divorce rate. Especially when men the first time theh knock a woman up. Even if they barely know hee. They marry her
In the US? Maybe it's because in so much of the country there is no sex education.
That's an argument for free contraception.
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