Why do some people put a stigma on premarital sex?

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termanator · Accepted Answer

This covers a lot Romans 1:21-32 KJV
[21] Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. [22] Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, [23] And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things. [24] Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: [25] Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. [26] For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: [27] And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. [28] And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; [29] Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, [30] Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, [31] Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: [32] Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

For Just sex before marriage

joesheks · Accepted Answer

Let’s see how things have changed since premarital sex became acceptable: there is more sexual transmitted diseased people than ever before. Women are essentially used or often become unpaid live-in whores sexually servicing men who will not lay down their lives (marry) them. More children grow up in broken homes or nonexistent homes or are aborted because sex is “just a choice.” Women are more depressed than ever before and men are unhappy as most of the women have “been around the block” a few times and can longer provide true sexual intimacy when it’s so easy to give away. Yes, it’s politically correct to down religion and say we are free now, but the fact is that people who hold off on sex have a better chance of succeeding at marriage.

As a man I can tell you that if you want sex, it’s the best time to be alive. But intimacy, trust, fidelity etc are truly lacking.

But there are some people who still stigmatize premarital sex and it’s because regardless of religion, sex is better in a marriage and it’s women who suffer trying to act like men. Men actually respect and want a woman more who doesn’t just give it away.

hayley_may · Accepted Answer

Back in the day people were loyal less selfish and usually when people got married that’s how they were going to be unto death do they part blah blah and having sex was a big thing for after u got married as it was the start of a new life and starting a family. But in these days marriage to many is something that is a label, a way to control people, or just to simply prove love. But these days divorcing is more common as a lot of us are more selfish (not all don’t hate me). So really premarital sex doesn’t mean as much as it did before hand as marriage doesn’t mean what it used to for many.

Hannibal_Lecter420 · Accepted Answer

It's been that way for centuries many cultures and religions require you to be married before you have sex. They didn't have protection so sex meant children and children needed providers not just one. Birth control has been a very scary long experiment. The women have been severely affected by birth control over the years. Now we've come closer to a more effective and safer birth control and we have condoms we can have sex whenever we please without having children. If we do have children there is an option to abort them. That wasn't available before.

drsatan · Answer

Just a few old fashioned puritans who refuse to let old ideas die. Most people think the idea of waiting for marriage is crazy, especially in an age when less and less people even feel the need to get married anymore.

jaycreast · Answer

I think it's more generational stigma that has been passed down from the older generations. I think (not based on fact) that families weren't as segmented as they are today. With that and a greater attendance to the church family values was passed down with greater emphasis then it is today. Now mom and dad are divorced. Kid loves with Mom during the week nahes trying to maintain a relationship with a boyfriend, having premarital sex that's the modeling little Johnny gets. Goes to Dad's every other weekend andba dinner on Thursday. Dad is hanging with a side piece. Of course dad's like fool me once shame on you fool me twice fuck I'm never retiring. And Johnny is receiving his family's values and that will someday be the social norms. So a family who prays together ends up just us fucked up as little Johnny.

Teyfet · Answer

Usually, it's because of religious beliefs that women should save themselves, and no man would want them once they are "soiled." However, living with someone before marriage (considered by many to be the same thing) is the best way to get to know someone, and if they are really whom you believe they are.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Because premarital sex leads to sex being the only thing that keeps two people together. When sex sucks the marriage sucks. If a relationship is built on something other than sex - could it be love? - sex will always be good and it will last a lifetime. Relationships built on sex will only last as long as it takes them to get tired of sex with the same old person because that is the only bond they have and bonds can fail without the right type of glue - called love.

Lliam · Answer

No idea. I can't imagine not having premarital sex. How can someone know they want to marry another person unless they know that they are sexually compatible? How can a person go through life not having any relationships prior to meeting the person they want to spend the rest of their life with?

TacocaT6969 · Answer

Religion as well as people taking the idiots who have unprotected sex regularly as an example.

ushagomez · Answer

We had better let those who choose to stigmatise it tell us why.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Take a look around and you will see the outcome of premarital sex everywhere...

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Well, lots of reasons. If I had to guess what some of these people might say then it would probably be along religious, biological, and practical lines.

4eyes2mouths · Answer

People put such a huge label on sex. It's really... not a big deal. Though religion has made it a way to respect your body. Most religious beliefs are bs.

DrippingHoney · Answer

I believe it's primarily because of religious reasons.

mattmanyah2 · Answer

It's bad for society... Lets say it was not only the norm but encouraged... The babies out side of marriage go up. 72% of juvenile murderers, and 60% of rapists came from single mother homes. Chuck Colson, “How Shall We Live?” Tyndale House , 2004, p.323 boys that are born out of wedlock and into a fatherless home are 3 times more likely to end up in jail... Not to mention all the preventable diseases that could be erraticated if monogamy was forced (definitely do not think it should be)... the 3 major causes of permanent poverty in America are not completing high school, not working consistently and having a baby out of wedlock... I can give a bunch more psychological reasons but I don't think you'd care... I'm not judging anyone for what they do but I'm going to keep it in my pants

Goma15 · Answer

Probably depends from person to person, but broadly... I'd say outdated religious beliefs and sensitivities.

cunnilinguist · Answer

Because they have been brainwashed by religion. Every human being with a brain knows abstinence from pre-marital sex ruins lives. Frustration caused by bad sex (incompatibility, poor quality, insufficient quantity, etc.) is why about 50% of marriages end in divorce in most countries. The other 50% is made up of separated couples and others that stay together only because they have kids, financial reasons, what others / family will think, because they don't like change, because they've gotten used to each other, they're afraid to be alone again, etc. not because they're happy. Nearly no two people in a marriage are together because they're happy and not frustrated with each other sexually.

sensible27 · Answer

People are irrational with irrational beliefs. I have some and you probabilistically have some too and it's alright. The problem is not their singular belief to such an extent as much as their overall beliefs are. Pre marital is not partially justifiable in some sense that you couldn't choose or weren't smart enough to choose and predict the right answer/partner in the first place and there is some analysis of a person that can be done on that (on the basis of that).