Would a single guy turn down an offer for casual sex?

[Anonymous]

I slept once with this guy and he still turns me on. He evern flirts with me, but during our one night stand his performance wasn´t that good, so I think he is ashamed of it. He is only flirting with me when he meets me, but never initiates a contact I think it was a thing of alcohol and would like to try it again. Do you thing it is approapriate to offer a casual sex to him? I don´t want a relationship, I just want to have a good time, fun and sex. Would you reject such offer /please note that I´m a very good looking/.

[Tractorbeam]

If I was unattached, I wouldn't reject your offer.Some might call me a slut, but I'm not likely to refuse sex if I'm not cheating on anyone by doing it.
I think you could win him over, if show him that you're still interested and attracted to him.He may be a little shy or embarassed by his drunken performance.I have a rule, that I don't do first time sex with a woman who's drunk.It's OK if she gets drunk after the first time.Sex always gets better after the first time, and he should know that.
Practice up on your body language, and especially eye contact.Invite him for dinner or something.If he accepts, make sure you dress to kill before he arrives.It should work.

[DrinkingTea]

When you say performance wasn't good/he might be ashamed? What do you mean like he last very short? Or it was just shitty?

I'm assuming he lasted a short time being said he might be ashamed.. In which case I could see him turning it down. You have to make him feel comfortable about it.. We've all been there (guys that is) and if they haven't they're in for a rude awakening lol

Plus if he was drunk I could see that happening also soooo for casual sex... Invite him over see what happens?

[Asker]

I´m 100 % sure it will be better next time. Both of us were drunk and it was 5 a.m. when we did it. He didn´t make me come, so I think he felt a little bit conscious about it, but these things happen, I think I can train him ;)

[DrinkingTea]

Well, there's an issue if you were both drunk and tired very possible he couldn't fully "pleasure" even so if you're up to it yes you can train him... Some guys feel bad if they can't please a girl.. Even if they're drunk!

[Asker]

Hmmm.. but I wanted him so much even before we hooked up.. we deserve another chance :)

[DrinkingTea]

Well, go for that chance!! Don't make it too obvious he seems like a shy guy. He'll come around :D

[linds34]

If you let the guy know you just want to fuck, no relationship, very few would turn that down.

[bubbletrouble]

It would depend on the guy and where his beliefs in stand.

[Bvroon]

I don't think there is anything wrong with making the first move, and if you like him and know what it is you want, just tell him. Personally I would find it a huge turn on, and would not pass that offer up.

[islands7]

Could you ask him AFTER a nice dinner, conversation, even dancing, perhaps come home to wine, massage? THEN I would say any single guy that says NO needs no further invitations

[Asker]

we had only one night stand and I´m not sure if he will ask me for a dinner, because i probably scared him off about talking about not being hurt and wanting a real relationship. but all this stuff changed and I want to enjoy this man in a not egoistic way now..

[islands7]

what? nooooo... YOU ask HIM out to lunch/dinner/walk and...

[Asker]

even when I want sex only?

[islands7]

AFTER this you'll have him down for casual sex all you want

[discreet]

declare it as having funn, ask him if he's interested?

[palek]

I certainly would.

[uuhhhh]

As far as I know I would turn down any offer of casual sex

[JohnWhilkins]

Go for it. And dont base it on that, the more you have sex with the guy the most likely better its going to get. And if its a casual thing I bet you could do the whole "try this to get better" thing without it being as embarrassing.

[bDizzie]

No guy in his right mind would turn down casual sex, though I'm confused why you don't want a relationship

[Asker]

I just recovered from a divorce, I need somebody to make me smile and please me, not to complicate my life ;)

[Cheeky_Unfortunate]

Me? Yes. I have better things to do and really once is enough.

[beastman88]

at least buy him dinner first :P

[26ukdude]

I would not turn down an offer for casual sex form a girl if I was single.

[Metal189]

yes, but only because she was too young. i would have been having illegal sex. at first i thought i wanted it but then i came to my sense and was like, what the hell am i doing, im better than this

[Asker]

We both are 28. I´m pretty attractive and he is hot. :)

[Metal189]

he may still turn it down. hed be dumb to, but he could always turn it down. if he does, how do you think you'll handle it. probably not very well

[Asker]

yup that´s right. But why would he flirt with me after we slept together? I am a very attractive woman and many man are drawn to me. So I believe he is attracted to me physically and only thing I want him to do is to satisfy me physically

[Metal189]

maybe he likes the attention

[Dandeus]

I have no interest in casual sex. Not worth the risks involves for a little fun with someone I don't even care about.

[Shyguy_1988]

Depends on the single guy. Sure most would, I wouldn't, that is not me.

[gitarplayr420]

Not unless theyre gay

[mario1321]

If he's not initiating sex then dont put yourself out there or he may get the wrong impression of you

[legalboxers]

casual sex is good, if he turns it down. its his loss

[GoldCobra]

He's not going to reject your offer

[SuitAndTie]

Yes, a guy would turn down an offer for casual sex. There are several reasons as to why he does. Not all guys are interested in having casual sex.

It can be appropriate to offer casual sex as long as you two are on the same page.

[Asker]

We already had sex, but when we had it I told him I want something serious only. Now I changed my mind (many things changed in my life) and I really need it and don´t want to do it with somebody new. This guy flirts with me and I find him perfect for a fling, but I´m just affraid to offer him something like this. Simply, I´m right after divorce and I WANT man to make me smile, give me pleasure, but not overcomplicate the things.. makes sense? I can even like him, but I´m currently afraid of committment

[SuitAndTie]

could be that he never initiates contact because he thought you wanted more, which now isn't the case. does he know of your divorce and the other things that change in your life?

[Asker]

before we slept together the first time I mentioned all those things and I mentioned that I´m currently very vulnerable. I was affraid that he will hurt me and I think that he got afraid of the whole thing because of this. Later I realized that I want to have only fun and he is the perfect guy, because he is actually able to make me smile. So I think he believes I want a relationship, but in reality I want only good time, sex and company, not a committment really.

[SuitAndTie]

Do you think there is any chance you will begin to catch feelings for this guy at some point? If it came to that point would you say no to a relationship with this guy?

[Asker]

Honestly, I don´t know. I just like him and want to enjoy him. If both of us will feel something deeper why not. At this moment, I just want to be with him and enjoy him, nothing more..

[SuitAndTie]

then by all means initiate casual sex. just be ready if one of you catches feelings and the other doesn't feel the same.

[Asker]

I know, but at this moment I just need IT, only thing I´m afraid of is the rejection. But I know Iˇm very pretty and he flirts with me.. so why don´t to try it? What are the odds he will reject me and will brag about it?

[SuitAndTie]

Depends on his personality I guess. He could keep it to himself or he could brag about it. Depends on what he's like. Unless the guy is looking for a relationship or he is dating someone else, I doubt you will get rejected. Especially because you've done it before and you say you're very pretty.

[Anonymous]

Are you kidding? No I wouldn't. . Lucky guy

[Anonymous]

I will because it is never really casual.

[Anonymous]

In my experience, more will go for the casual sex then won't.