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Why so many questions about dick size instead of what really gets women off?

Only about 25-30% of women can orgasm from anything you do with your dick. It takes direct clitoral stimulation to get women off, and the penis is exceptionally ineffective at doing that, no matter how large.

If you want to know how to satisfy us, quit worrying about your dick size, and instead step-up your oral/manual stimulation game, and learn how and when to introduce a vibrator or other sex toy to save time and effort.

Why so many questions about dick size instead of what really gets women off?
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Yes, we know there is a vocal but small minority of size queens. Why do you listen to THEM and not US? (Noting the many female respondents so far.)
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Also worth noting: In the human female, it has ben decisively shown that ONLY the clitoris actually does the thing we call "orgasm". The vagina, the rectum, the nipples, and other places people claim they have orgasms actually do not have the mechanism for orgasm, even if they contribute to pleasurable feelings. If a woman had an orgasm, it's her clitoris that did it.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • It's that cynical thing where you feel like everybody is lying to you to spare your feelings and only the people with the most blunt, brutal opinion is the one telling you the truth. There could be a hundred women giving you the old "size doesn't matter" shtick and all it takes is one "size queen" to come along and just ruin your day.

    I would think this is something women can absolutely relate to, right? If the questions I see on here are anything to go by, women experience the exact same effect. And women are judged on every facet of their appearance. I've seen so many beautiful girls on this site who were convinced they weren't good enough, that guys secretly wanted a girl with bigger breasts or a bigger butt or a thigh gap or whatever, but are holding back either to be nice or to string them along until someone better comes along.

    It's a different manifestation of the same effect. It's easier to tear down people's sense of self worth than to build it up.

    • Breast size really doesn't matter to me. I like small breasts

    • You make a very valid point. You'll see it echoed in what some of the men have been saying so far.

  • I think it's because our culture values dominance and hierarchy. So I think therefore, the top man is one who has bigger and better things right? More $, bigger muscles, flashier car and dicks are symbolic of power and I think it's to other guys a macho, competition, size up thing of being bigger than other men. It's silly, but so is guys getting muscular not for women's attraction but more often to be bigger and badder than other men. I feel the big dick is similar to men wanting to outmatch each other

    • I think you hit it right on the head here.

    • yeah I mean I blame these men, but also blame out culture and such cultures just as much if not more. It's compounded and ingrained into boys at a young age, about how real men are stronger tough, stoic, get girls, stronger than other men, etc. So some boys conscious or sub conscious have a deep insecurity but manifests as bravado and such. So guys are busy trying to "look" tougher and be stronger, when it's really a fascade, a mask of masculinity. But in the process instead of growing into a balanced human being, the strong emotions and only the "alpha or supposed alpha traits" are focused on. But in reality I think it stunts maturity and coping with adversities. This can be on the small scale, and unfortunately large scale with what serious stuff that happens and see incidence like recently. Some things are benign, but the mentality does seem interconnected though.

Most Helpful Girls

  • THANK YOU! I say this on every freaking sick size question I answer and still I get told it's bull shit and that women all want to take 12 inch dicks.
    I'm so over the dick size question. Because most guys seem to think that's really all that matters. It's always I'm x. x inches, is that enough to please a woman?
    I wish I saw more questions asking about what techniques for oral sex a guy could try out on his girl to please her.

    • I hope the mods are still deleting the bulk of the questions, because when I was a mod, we got about 50 dick size questions a day.

    • Really that many questions? Although I do have to say that I questioned myself a lot regarding that fact when I was around 16 years old, obviously I didn't know better, so maybe it's the age of the guys posing the questions there? And obviously porn has a great deal to do with those doubts

  • True. Its not the size of the machine you have but if you know how to use it. Cause accessories are required aka fingers mouth...
    Women usually get orgasms during foreplay - when its well performed - and penetration are just a bonus for both

  • Pretty sad how a lot of guys base their self esteem and worth around their dicks. I barely see any "is my vagina too ___?" questions. It's like that's the only thing they have to offer, when it really isn't.

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  • Very good point. They think penis size is all that matters. It's who are as a person, cleanliness and how you behave in bed that matters.

  • "decisively shown that ONLY the clitoris actually does the thing we call "orgasm"." that is wrong in many ways.

    go educate yourself more.

    yes its harder to acheive orgasm from other spots , yes its uncommon. but clit isn't the only spot with nerves that make the woman achieve orgasm. you can easily watch sexologist on youtube called lindsy doe. on channel sexplanation.

  • Def in that 30%.

    Of absolutely no relatability or purpose here...

  • I have been told by a few women size didn't matter but until I saw Dr. Ruth on TV talking about the subject and she said women didn't need to be penetrated in order to have an orgasm. The penetration was more for man to get & stay aroused so he can ejaculate inside the woman in order to reproduce. It was a call-in show and one caller tried to convince doctor Ruth and she was a different type of woman and she needed someone with a large penis. Ruth replied she was no different from any woman & if she wanted a big dick so she could feel like gutted like deer that was her preference but not a necessity. Then Dr Ruth added if she insisted on keep getting gutted by big penises one day it might lead to medical issues that she might need to have taken care of down the road. Personally I've never had a complaint but I do like lick on woman's vagina & one lady friend said when she starts orgasming that's when I would start wallering in it like a pig in slop. I took that as a compliment.

  • MlleCake, thank you so much... I get so tired explaining this with the size questions all the time. Maybe we can start saying refer to MlleCake post from 5/21/18 around 2:00 PM

    • I have a MY TAKE that covers this, and you're always welcome to link to it.

  • Sure. Tell that to the size queens, horse cock dildo owners and baby dragon lovers. Just saying.

    • They're such a minority.

    • @sugarette Exactly.

    • Hmmmm...

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  • I think a lot of the issue is people are literally just going in and out.

    Like when I do it I want to squeeze their body against mine, feel every inch if their skin constantly and kissing/making out during said sex quite a bit. Invade each other's senses not just the genital area lol

  • Another way to explain how size really doesn't matter is to explain sex toys. Most of the best toys do things that dicks cannot: vibrate, twirl, shaped differently etc. And the reason is that simple in and back stimulation is boring and not very effective for pleasure. A simple knowledge of the gspot shows that most dicks will not stimulate it, the fact that most women masturbate without penetration, and just clitoral stimulation. It's just small things like this that are logic based and completly contradictory of the "dicks are magic" mentality that might help sway as well. I really support the fact based way you explained this :)

  • Women and society brag about big penises. No one brags about small or average penises. Average or small is just fine. I think guys want to know that their average or small penis size is amazing to. Not their tongue not their hands. If a guy with a big penis is good in bed its his size that is praised. If a guy with a small or average penis is great in bed its not his penis that is praised, its his skills.
    Penises are part of their bodies to and they want the points that should come with it.
    Just listen to women describe good dick

  • Thanks you so much for asking this question. Even if at 50 percent of guys read it and stop being insecure about size and stop asking those question i will be happy.

    • Hahaha true.😁

  • Why so many questions about breasts? ;)

    • I haven’t seen any

    • I mean, there’s one feature right now about high school girls wearing shirts over their sports bras... but it was also asked by a man.

    • @Bribree18 Maybe you have to be a guy? lol I see a million every single day and time I come on here.

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  • Right

  • Guys watch porn. They see guys who are in the 1 percentile when it comes to penis size. They see the girls having orgasms (or faked orgasms). They compare the penises they see in porn to their own and they feel inadequate. It's silly, but I think that explains a lot of it. You make a lot of excellent points. The clitoris isn't just a girl's best friend, it's a guy's as well (if he knows how to stimulate it right).

  • I ask myself the same thing...

    • There's one thing I disagree with you on. Direct clitoral stimulation... that place is too sensitive to receive that much blunt stimulation. Around it, sure, but head on... no. At least for me that's the case.

  • Any smart guy knows multi tasking when having sex to maximize her senses is a smart thing to do. Now I could go into detail butttt then I would have more competition. So lol and I'm very confident in this area for sure.

  • Ya but women have this strange obsession with size
    Like its almost the first thing girls talk about to their friends the day after they slept with the guy for the first time

    'Ohhh stacy, so how big'
    Like its not us. Its women lol. Its totally women

    Men barely even care about breast size. But dicks. Pfff. Girls are just to loose it seems

    • Look at the women commenting so far. Look at me. Most women are more like me. I can notice a change in sensation with different size penises - it's not like there isn't a difference. But the difference has nothing to do with satisfying sex.

    • And we get a TON of feedback about our breasts that show there are a large number of men who prefer larger breasts. I don't see men getting that much feedback about penis size mattering, since it soesn't matter to most women I know. I IS a think we can pick on you about though, since we know you're sensitive. You make yourselves easy targets. (I don't, but I have seen other women do it.)

  • Okay... That last picture looks like a naked girl's crotch. I don't know if that is allowed on this site or what, but it is very distracting. I am very distracted. I can't even remember what you asked.

  • One word, insecure!

  • Oh really? ☺️ Well so what turns you on then? 🙂 I have never cared of my penis size actually 😁 it's just as it is ☺️

    • What gets ME off? Direct clitoral stimulation. What turns me on? So many things it would take me an hour to answer.

    • That is so cute ☺️ thank you so much 😊

    • What's most important is to find out what works for the woman you are actually with. Men frequently make it very hard for women to communicate with them about what they like. You can put a lot of pressure on us to be one certain way in bed, and that makes it hard for us to tell you that things don't really work that way.

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  • Guys are as self conscious as you ladies.

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