Why so many questions about dick size instead of what really gets women off?

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Only about 25-30% of women can orgasm from anything you do with your dick. It takes direct clitoral stimulation to get women off, and the penis is exceptionally ineffective at doing that, no matter how large.

If you want to know how to satisfy us, quit worrying about your dick size, and instead step-up your oral/manual stimulation game, and learn how and when to introduce a vibrator or other sex toy to save time and effort.

Why so many questions about dick size instead of what really gets women off?

sa230e · Accepted Answer

It's that cynical thing where you feel like everybody is lying to you to spare your feelings and only the people with the most blunt, brutal opinion is the one telling you the truth. There could be a hundred women giving you the old "size doesn't matter" shtick and all it takes is one "size queen" to come along and just ruin your day.

I would think this is something women can absolutely relate to, right? If the questions I see on here are anything to go by, women experience the exact same effect. And women are judged on every facet of their appearance. I've seen so many beautiful girls on this site who were convinced they weren't good enough, that guys secretly wanted a girl with bigger breasts or a bigger butt or a thigh gap or whatever, but are holding back either to be nice or to string them along until someone better comes along.

It's a different manifestation of the same effect. It's easier to tear down people's sense of self worth than to build it up.

brennanhuff · Accepted Answer

I think it's because our culture values dominance and hierarchy. So I think therefore, the top man is one who has bigger and better things right? More $, bigger muscles, flashier car and dicks are symbolic of power and I think it's to other guys a macho, competition, size up thing of being bigger than other men. It's silly, but so is guys getting muscular not for women's attraction but more often to be bigger and badder than other men. I feel the big dick is similar to men wanting to outmatch each other

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

THANK YOU! I say this on every freaking sick size question I answer and still I get told it's bull shit and that women all want to take 12 inch dicks.
I'm so over the dick size question. Because most guys seem to think that's really all that matters. It's always I'm x. x inches, is that enough to please a woman?
I wish I saw more questions asking about what techniques for oral sex a guy could try out on his girl to please her.

TinaSP · Accepted Answer

True. Its not the size of the machine you have but if you know how to use it. Cause accessories are required aka fingers mouth...
Women usually get orgasms during foreplay - when its well performed - and penetration are just a bonus for both

sugarette · Accepted Answer

Pretty sad how a lot of guys base their self esteem and worth around their dicks. I barely see any "is my vagina too ___?" questions. It's like that's the only thing they have to offer, when it really isn't.

Hannah591 · Answer

Very good point. They think penis size is all that matters. It's who are as a person, cleanliness and how you behave in bed that matters.

1988fido · Answer

"decisively shown that ONLY the clitoris actually does the thing we call "orgasm"." that is wrong in many ways.

go educate yourself more.

yes its harder to acheive orgasm from other spots , yes its uncommon. but clit isn't the only spot with nerves that make the woman achieve orgasm. you can easily watch sexologist on youtube called lindsy doe. on channel sexplanation.

dancing_in_nebulas · Answer

Def in that 30%. Of absolutely no relatability or purpose here...

Evilcharlie · Answer

I have been told by a few women size didn't matter but until I saw Dr. Ruth on TV talking about the subject and she said women didn't need to be penetrated in order to have an orgasm. The penetration was more for man to get & stay aroused so he can ejaculate inside the woman in order to reproduce. It was a call-in show and one caller tried to convince doctor Ruth and she was a different type of woman and she needed someone with a large penis. Ruth replied she was no different from any woman & if she wanted a big dick so she could feel like gutted like deer that was her preference but not a necessity. Then Dr Ruth added if she insisted on keep getting gutted by big penises one day it might lead to medical issues that she might need to have taken care of down the road. Personally I've never had a complaint but I do like lick on woman's vagina & one lady friend said when she starts orgasming that's when I would start wallering in it like a pig in slop. I took that as a compliment.

Moonchild714 · Answer

MlleCake, thank you so much... I get so tired explaining this with the size questions all the time. Maybe we can start saying refer to MlleCake post from 5/21/18 around 2:00 PM

MrMysteryMan · Answer

Sure. Tell that to the size queens, horse cock dildo owners and baby dragon lovers. Just saying.

ScaryCool · Answer

I think a lot of the issue is people are literally just going in and out.

Like when I do it I want to squeeze their body against mine, feel every inch if their skin constantly and kissing/making out during said sex quite a bit. Invade each other's senses not just the genital area lol

GreedyGiver651 · Answer

Another way to explain how size really doesn't matter is to explain sex toys. Most of the best toys do things that dicks cannot: vibrate, twirl, shaped differently etc. And the reason is that simple in and back stimulation is boring and not very effective for pleasure. A simple knowledge of the gspot shows that most dicks will not stimulate it, the fact that most women masturbate without penetration, and just clitoral stimulation. It's just small things like this that are logic based and completly contradictory of the "dicks are magic" mentality that might help sway as well. I really support the fact based way you explained this :)

BlackMaleYou · Answer

Women and society brag about big penises. No one brags about small or average penises. Average or small is just fine. I think guys want to know that their average or small penis size is amazing to. Not their tongue not their hands. If a guy with a big penis is good in bed its his size that is praised. If a guy with a small or average penis is great in bed its not his penis that is praised, its his skills.
Penises are part of their bodies to and they want the points that should come with it.
Just listen to women describe good dick

Billlewis · Answer

Because we're so fearful of not being able to properly satisfy you, and failing to live up to the expectations that you have for us.

shreya_shiry · Answer

Thanks you so much for asking this question. Even if at 50 percent of guys read it and stop being insecure about size and stop asking those question i will be happy.

GingerGuy · Answer

Why so many questions about breasts? ;)

MonaLee · Answer

Right

TadCurious · Answer

Guys watch porn. They see guys who are in the 1 percentile when it comes to penis size. They see the girls having orgasms (or faked orgasms). They compare the penises they see in porn to their own and they feel inadequate. It's silly, but I think that explains a lot of it. You make a lot of excellent points. The clitoris isn't just a girl's best friend, it's a guy's as well (if he knows how to stimulate it right).

cherryphi82 · Answer

I ask myself the same thing...

Duke07 · Answer

Any smart guy knows multi tasking when having sex to maximize her senses is a smart thing to do. Now I could go into detail butttt then I would have more competition. So lol and I'm very confident in this area for sure.

TripleAce · Answer

Ya but women have this strange obsession with size
Like its almost the first thing girls talk about to their friends the day after they slept with the guy for the first time

'Ohhh stacy, so how big'
Like its not us. Its women lol. Its totally women

Men barely even care about breast size. But dicks. Pfff. Girls are just to loose it seems

Prankster13 · Answer

Okay... That last picture looks like a naked girl's crotch. I don't know if that is allowed on this site or what, but it is very distracting. I am very distracted. I can't even remember what you asked.

SandMan789234 · Answer

One word, insecure!

sakalator · Answer

Oh really? ☺️ Well so what turns you on then? 🙂 I have never cared of my penis size actually 😁 it's just as it is ☺️

Diznedude · Answer

Guys are as self conscious as you ladies.

Leo999 · Answer

Women should just ignore these questions altogether. No amount of talk about technique, clitoral stimulation, etc., is ever going to convince a majority of men with average to below average size penises that most women on average would not either be disappointed by how "small" these men believe themselves to be, or would not be tempted to cheat on them with another man if that man is better looking and, they assume or were told, better endowed than them.

Also, expressing frustration over this issue, while understandable, isn't going to change the minds of these men. And it really doesn't matter how honest you ladies are being. Men have preconceived notions. Men are stubborn.

Just live your lives and hope that whatever men you are attracted to will have enough confidence to be intimate with you even if they aren't well endowed. Don't worry about random men online you'll probably never interact with. It's not your burden to make them feel good about themselves.

BigRob420 · Answer

I feel that g spot stimulation with my dick actually works pretty well.

Paultripps · Answer

My girlfriend went out with a female friend for drinks sat... came home... omg you’re right! - What? - So and so is totally hung up on dicks. - Told you many women are like that... (gf is not). Basically a fireman and her friend went out with had a small dick. Said fireman made this girl cum twice. girlfriend asked “so it was good then?” - friend said “I guess, but I just couldn’t see sleeping with him again after that” - soooo, while you have your feelings, realize many many other women it is a big deal for them no matter how good you are with your tongue or fingers. When we met the very first thing another friend of hers asked how big I was, and she’s a lesbian in a committed no dick relationship. After my girlfriend answered she was like “phew cause some things are deal breakers”- so even a woman getting no dick seems to make a big deal out of it. Yes, we do listen to those women more than others, and basically assume women don’t really speak the truth on this...

TclaytonIi · Answer

What the hell is sex?

zickzack91 · Answer

Because for us men, its not so important if we lose an eye an arm or a leg. But if we lose sth down there its like worlds end. Anyway its the same reason why girls are asking about their body hair or breast size or if they are overweight. That is simply important for the gendergroup because there are those 10 % where dicksize matters and boobsize matters because its simply attractive and a turn on for them. Unfortunately those are also the people who are well dressed and considered hot or cool, so the value of their opinion is higher than the value of the 90 % regular guys. For us regular people shape of breasts butt or penis doesn't matter. :)

felix_the_cat316 · Answer

Because of their insecurity, and they think dick size will be what gets them girls and makes the girl stay with them

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I used to find the g spot pretty easily, and either use my thumb or tongue to simultaneously stimulate the clit. Ex seemingly loved it

JonnyTrauma · Answer

I said this before you could have the best tool for tool for the job but if your a unskilled idiot it means nothing

LightSoul2 · Answer

I agree. Dick size questions are annoying. If guys really want to know the truth then they should just read this myTake and spare people from the trouble of answering the same question million times

Anpu23 · Answer

There's a base insecurity in men about not measuring up, further as the only other penises most guys have ever seen are in porn, most guys think that they are below average at least on a subconscious level. Even really big guys really see themselves as average in their mind.

Tessi · Answer

Just use logic - a woman can make herself cum with just a finger, I don't think size was ever an issue.

Also, sex isn't just about shoving meat in a hole or scratching away at a piece of flesh, it's a balance of physical and mental stimulation, hence the importance of foreplay, setting the mood, teasing, creating antecipation, provocation, immersion, variety, etc.

KingOfEverything14 · Answer

Blame pornography.

Takazaki · Answer

For men it's an issue of pride. For women I assume genuine curiosity.

kaskas19 · Answer

Porn ads. There's always ads like "TAKE THIS FOR A BIG SHLONG!1!1"

CasaNorba · Answer

I think vaginas are disgusting and not planning on ever putting my mouth inside one of them, so i guess I'm in trouble.

anyways I tried telling @HitGirl_4680 this a while back and she lashed out at me with strong sense of disagreement

mysticghost · Answer

Giving a woman an orgasm starts in her head. The rest is about stimulating the parts of her body that are the most sensitive when she is aroused, at the right time. Not all women are the same, except when it comes to the mental side. If a guy can create enough sexual tension, everything will fall into place better, and the size of the dick won't matter. Being able to last during sex has more influence than size. A big dick that doesn't last long isn't as good as a average dick that can last. There is much much more about pleasing a woman... it's nice to see her walk like she forgot how after sex.

Holyguga · Answer

Cause dudes want you to fear their giga cocks duh. If you don't seem shocked by it then they don't feel pleased. Also, something satisfy about laying a big ol' meat tube out on the table. It's not about you. It's about us.

lil_sis · Answer

I agree , even 3 inches is a lot at 900 rpm and just as much as 9 inches, it's a mental thing really, lots of antisapation, fourplay, romance and ramp up the rpms you will get her off for sure

genericname85 · Answer

you know in order to ask the right questions, one needs to know enough about the topic...

winniethepoah · Answer

Preach!!! 👏👏 I remember telling one of my friends that we can orgasm without penetration at all just from the clitoris and his mind was blown 😂😂 and this was a 20 year old dude having lots of regular sex with many partners. Once again sex ed failing again..

InsertCoolName · Answer

Because men judge other men on their dick size. It's like how some girls with small breasts are embarrassed about it.

goldcherry · Answer

You’re totally right.

JimmyAlderson · Answer

The meme is amazing 😂 and I never got why guys want to talk about or brag about the size of their dicks. And I agree with you 1,000% clitoral stimulation is definitely more enjoyable for the lady than having some guy pounding away on her, maybe they should watch less porn.

DanielSon3823 · Answer

Probably because some guys actually got told they were too small to do anything with it.

Aynsof · Answer

Well I do believe studies have found most average size me think they are well below average
So it is for many a great question of confidence
Same as it is with women and breast size
Having small or believing you have small equipment lowers your sense of self worth which can lead to overcompensation or social isolation
It is just the way of things

dolemite68 · Answer

I always felt bad for the girls that can’t cum from good d alone lmao some of the grumpiest girls I’ve ever met 😂😂😂

AM-205 · Answer

I like the way you think... We men are just too picky!

torwulf · Answer

Dick size is easy to measure.

samsson773 · Answer

I have come to master this art lol

Philyouup · Answer

Because the guys asking are immature and really dont know any better..

Romeo0071234 · Answer

I wouldn't say all guys.. maybe the young and inexperienced. I dont think I have the biggest dick.. but I know it's not the smallest.. and its not something I think about tbh. I think more of how I appear to a women and being clean, etc.. I am sure most women would not breakup with a guy cause his dick size. If that was the case there would be hell of small dick guys running around single I'm sure lol.. but I can imagine it gets to be a pain being asked this by most guys. Which is how I feel when women go over board with how concerened they are about their weight etc.. I think it's an insecurity thing.. men have it about their dick sizes and women have it about looks, weight etc.

dansx · Answer

I have been told many times how women can't have orgasm until they are with me. All my women have had powerful orgasms and I love how that feels. It's better than mine.

What I do is work it in stages. First backrub to relax. Leads to kissing and cuddling. That leads to heavy petting and foreplay. I don't even bother inserting until she has the first orgasm.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

i know that size doesn't matter i use to but i use to think average was bad that girls want way above average but i learnt thats not true eay before coming on here cuz i talked to many female friends who were open an dint mind me asking an they were, much older an exsperanced so i never talk about the size on my post an i try to adk sum intamcy questions in a none threating way to girls cuz i beleive it can be asked nice by guys an i know it takes clitoral stimulation for climax its just i dint know sum stuff that your diagrams showed so you have sught me a few new things about girls, anatomy

Surely · Answer

That is all I have and there ain't no more! So why is it so hard for women to tell men what feels good to them? Other than "What you are doing feels good"?

2opaz · Answer

Tiny penis humiliation gets girls off

roseypopxox · Answer

Ikr😫

samhayne · Answer

Ok. There are PLENTY of things you women are irrationally insecure about and will continue to be, regardless of how many times we try to assure you that they are of no consequence to us.

Penis size is like that. Plus the fact that most women do say they want a bigger guy.

DanOh2018 · Answer

Oh I've known this for a while. While my cocksmanship is certainly good, it's my skillful hands that get me invited back. Lol 😂

austinbooth · Answer

My bet is a lot of men are scared they're to small.

Why so many questions about dick size instead of what really gets women off?

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