Would you want to have a threesome when in a loving relationship with your partner?

Would the thought attract you? Would you bring it up to your partner? 2 girls or 2 guys.
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  • In the early days of our relationship, my girlfriend and I were pretty wild. We did threesomes, both MMF and FFM, and we would swap. It was pretty crazy and we did enjoy it.

    Be prepared, though. One day Your having some great sex and you see your s/o being totally pleasured by someone else and something inside you will say - "No! He or She's mine. I only get to do that."

    You'll be jealous. With me, I told myself to get over it. That my gfd's pleasure was the important thing. Still, that primal male instinct to be with your girlfriend was hard to fight.

    Not to be overdramatic but there was a part of me that felt like it was being ripped out and irrationally I was no longer sexually adequate. It was absurd as our sex life was still great, and so I would start f****ing the other woman harder and more roughly just to prove my manhood - which was not really being challenged.

    Eventually, we realized that while we enjoyed it, what we most wanted was each other. We still have a great sex life, but now it is just the two of us.

    Be prepared. You will both experience emotions you never expected. I would say, try it. You will enjoy it. I still have memories of some great sex. Eventually though, you'll just want each other exclusively - and you will never have seen it coming.

    The voice of experience.

  • I honestly think polygamy would be nice. But that is still a marriage between one man and one woman in each instance, just that the man is married to multiple women. To me the sex would then be loving because it would be respectful. But not in a threesome, foursome, and etc. At that point, its only for the sexual thrill.

    While a guy could have and love multiple wives, he should only be with one at a time during a sexual act because he needs to devote all that energy and love toward one at a time so she is completely fulfilled. A loving sex act is about truly loving someone and being selfless during that act. The world makes love out to be a porn flick or an orgy and that's not even close to the reality of love.

Most Helpful Girls

  • In all honestly, I would rather have a threesome with two people I don't care about, versus having a threesome with a boyfriend and someone else.

    First off, I would *never* be okay with seeing my boyfriend having sexual contact with another girl. Secondly, if we were having a threesome with two guys, I would feel like I'm cheating, even though my partner would be in room. It would be a feeling I just couldn't shake. Plus, the last thing I would need is for him to say he's okay with it, then end up resenting me because he realized afterwards he really wasn't okay with it.

    However, a threesome with two people I'm attracted to but have no feelings for, why not?

    Threesomes with feelings involved, usually don't end well. I know there are couples who can do it, but I've never witnessed that.

    My one friend and her boyfriend had a threesome with another girl, and she actually ended up freaking out the second her boyfriend started fucking the other girl. She went into a rage, apparently. Their relationship never recovered. She just couldn't get that thought out of her head.

  • My boyfriend and I were just talking about this lol When we started dating I tried testing him to see what he would say, so I asked him if he'd want to have a threesome with my friend and I. He didn't get excited but just said " wait.. really?" lol Anyway, it didn't obviously happen and he passed the test becuase the way he processed it was amazing. He thought about the cons, the pros, and then told me if I really want to. Well 5 years later, I brought it up again lol And now he's wondering if I would ever really want to do it but like a threesome massage lol I know he loves me and it would turn me on to see him being into me more than the other girl because that's how much he loves me and is attracted to me so I guess that would be hot but I would never be able to actually do that lol Seems awkward, mentally draining, a lot of effot, and what if it turns into a mess lol

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  • If im in a loving relationship or starting a relationship with a new guy not a chance, threesomes, foursomes aren't for me, never ever considered it. I think too much of myself & my guy.

  • @Beniko no, never. No sanctity after such an act.

  • Jealousy will start on the long run.

  • No. It is a trying-to-make-it-okay cheating. And means he/she doesn't find you enough for himself/herself if they suggest a third person.

  • No, id rather stay faithful to the one and develop our relationship in every matter if its sex or anything else but just the two of us ❤