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Would you want to have a threesome when in a loving relationship with your partner?

Would the thought attract you? Would you bring it up to your partner? 2 girls or 2 guys.
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  • In the early days of our relationship, my girlfriend and I were pretty wild. We did threesomes, both MMF and FFM, and we would swap. It was pretty crazy and we did enjoy it.

    Be prepared, though. One day Your having some great sex and you see your s/o being totally pleasured by someone else and something inside you will say - "No! He or She's mine. I only get to do that."

    You'll be jealous. With me, I told myself to get over it. That my gfd's pleasure was the important thing. Still, that primal male instinct to be with your girlfriend was hard to fight.

    Not to be overdramatic but there was a part of me that felt like it was being ripped out and irrationally I was no longer sexually adequate. It was absurd as our sex life was still great, and so I would start f****ing the other woman harder and more roughly just to prove my manhood - which was not really being challenged.

    Eventually, we realized that while we enjoyed it, what we most wanted was each other. We still have a great sex life, but now it is just the two of us.

    Be prepared. You will both experience emotions you never expected. I would say, try it. You will enjoy it. I still have memories of some great sex. Eventually though, you'll just want each other exclusively - and you will never have seen it coming.

    The voice of experience.

  • I honestly think polygamy would be nice. But that is still a marriage between one man and one woman in each instance, just that the man is married to multiple women. To me the sex would then be loving because it would be respectful. But not in a threesome, foursome, and etc. At that point, its only for the sexual thrill.

    While a guy could have and love multiple wives, he should only be with one at a time during a sexual act because he needs to devote all that energy and love toward one at a time so she is completely fulfilled. A loving sex act is about truly loving someone and being selfless during that act. The world makes love out to be a porn flick or an orgy and that's not even close to the reality of love.

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  • In all honestly, I would rather have a threesome with two people I don't care about, versus having a threesome with a boyfriend and someone else.

    First off, I would *never* be okay with seeing my boyfriend having sexual contact with another girl. Secondly, if we were having a threesome with two guys, I would feel like I'm cheating, even though my partner would be in room. It would be a feeling I just couldn't shake. Plus, the last thing I would need is for him to say he's okay with it, then end up resenting me because he realized afterwards he really wasn't okay with it.

    However, a threesome with two people I'm attracted to but have no feelings for, why not?

    Threesomes with feelings involved, usually don't end well. I know there are couples who can do it, but I've never witnessed that.

    My one friend and her boyfriend had a threesome with another girl, and she actually ended up freaking out the second her boyfriend started fucking the other girl. She went into a rage, apparently. Their relationship never recovered. She just couldn't get that thought out of her head.

  • My boyfriend and I were just talking about this lol When we started dating I tried testing him to see what he would say, so I asked him if he'd want to have a threesome with my friend and I. He didn't get excited but just said " wait.. really?" lol Anyway, it didn't obviously happen and he passed the test becuase the way he processed it was amazing. He thought about the cons, the pros, and then told me if I really want to. Well 5 years later, I brought it up again lol And now he's wondering if I would ever really want to do it but like a threesome massage lol I know he loves me and it would turn me on to see him being into me more than the other girl because that's how much he loves me and is attracted to me so I guess that would be hot but I would never be able to actually do that lol Seems awkward, mentally draining, a lot of effot, and what if it turns into a mess lol

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  • If im in a loving relationship or starting a relationship with a new guy not a chance, threesomes, foursomes aren't for me, never ever considered it. I think too much of myself & my guy.

  • @Beniko no, never. No sanctity after such an act.

  • Jealousy will start on the long run.

  • No. It is a trying-to-make-it-okay cheating. And means he/she doesn't find you enough for himself/herself if they suggest a third person.

  • No, id rather stay faithful to the one and develop our relationship in every matter if its sex or anything else but just the two of us ❤

  • When I was first married I would have said never-but as the years go by and a routine sets in things change and experimenting was kind of exciting-for me it was more like swapping thoughts and a threesome would have been me with 2 men but my husband who was interested in swapping also preferred a threesome with me and another woman-so we never did it-I think we all fantasize about it but most don't follow through

    • You want to be split roasted? 😏 What about having sex with another man while your husband watched?

    • @aaa9501 I would never allow my husband to watch me and can't imagine him wanting to either.

  • A definite yes. I've been in threesomes before with partners with 2 girls and 2 guys before.

  • Absolutely not

  • I wouldn’t be in a relationship where either of us being shared sexually was appealing to them. But that’s just my preference.

  • He and i discussed it before. We’re both way too jealous and neither of us would ever touch the same sex. So if t ever happened, it would be a foursome with a guy for me and a girl for him. However our sex life would have to literally be on the edge for us to consider it

  • No. I hate it.

  • No, never in a loving relationship. Group sex has its place; it should be casual. But I guess if you're going to break up with your partner anyway it could be good time to try it!

  • yes, id consider it. 2 women or 2 guys, depends on the person really.

  • 2 or more girls?
    Yes, definitivly.
    2 guys?
    I wouldn't want to take part myself, but I'd be ok with *her* trying that out as long as she asked me and got my ok every step of the way.

    • You're gay

    • @Billywu Um, no... I'm neither sexually nor romantically attracted to other men... The point here is that I'm open to a poly relationship of some kind or other. I do *not* mind sharing a partner pr say, although it would like I mentioned before require that me and her communicated well and that both where feeling ok about the men and/or women involved in such sharing. There are men I would *not* feel comfortable with sharing a girlfriend with, and there are behaviours that would have made me feel reluctant about said sharing as well.

  • Im really glad you asked this, my wife should share her opinion too on this. But theirs a lot to cover. If your mans not bi, dont ask for 2 guy. here's why its a double standard. If you invite a girl, the girl can do stuff to you and him equally. If you have a guy, that guy is only there for you. Which will really be hard on your man. Cuz a 3 some isn't just for the benefit of one person, not just u, not just him. It should be equally worth it. If you want two dicks... buy a strap on and still have a girl join. As for the girl, dont do it with a girl thats unattractive, but not too attractive. If its both your first time, talk about every scenario first. And come to an agreement on it all.

    • So, once you got all that figured out. I suggest you and the girl go off and start on your own but dont get carried away with out him! Just break the ice with her. Basically get comfortable with her, touching her. etc. Then, either call him in to join, or you to go to him. I suggest you tie him up, so you two basically use him as a toy but at some point during sex, cut him loose so he can also enjoy it the way he wants.

    • The facts about him are. 9/10 times he's going to over think it. Get nervous, and cum quickly. Guys won't last long if their nervous. I suggest doing a lot of foreplay, with out him cumming, but the girls definitly cum. So they at least have theirs. Once the girls cum, everyone switch things up and get into actual intercoarse. Thats all I've got so far. I hope it helps, let me know how it goes. What worked what was bad. Not dirty details.

    • The hardest part for my girl and I was, finding that 3rd girl. Very hard to do. Let me know if you find a girl, how you went about it thanks.

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  • I wouldn't do it in the context of a loving and committed relationship. That's too destabilizing to the commitment aspect, which is part of what makes a relationship really worthwhile.

    If I weren't in a relationship (like right now), I'd be SO down. 2 girls, 2 guys, I'm up for whatever! hah! Already did it once before and it was unbelievable.

  • Three other women? Wouldn't that be cheating?

  • Nope.

  • Ewww, no. The thought itself makes me feel disgusted.

  • No. It ruins the relationship. I would only do that if I didn't really love the person I was with. When you truly love someone, you would never want to share them sexually with anyone else.

    • Not so. The real poly folks love their SO AND others. I have.

    • Huh? I don't understand that sentence at all. Lol. Can you reword or retype or something

    • The caps boggled you. Try again.

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