Would you want to have a threesome when in a loving relationship with your partner?

[Beniko]

Would the thought attract you? Would you bring it up to your partner? 2 girls or 2 guys.

[nightdrot]

In the early days of our relationship, my girlfriend and I were pretty wild. We did threesomes, both MMF and FFM, and we would swap. It was pretty crazy and we did enjoy it.

Be prepared, though. One day Your having some great sex and you see your s/o being totally pleasured by someone else and something inside you will say - "No! He or She's mine. I only get to do that."

You'll be jealous. With me, I told myself to get over it. That my gfd's pleasure was the important thing. Still, that primal male instinct to be with your girlfriend was hard to fight.

Not to be overdramatic but there was a part of me that felt like it was being ripped out and irrationally I was no longer sexually adequate. It was absurd as our sex life was still great, and so I would start f****ing the other woman harder and more roughly just to prove my manhood - which was not really being challenged.

Eventually, we realized that while we enjoyed it, what we most wanted was each other. We still have a great sex life, but now it is just the two of us.

Be prepared. You will both experience emotions you never expected. I would say, try it. You will enjoy it. I still have memories of some great sex. Eventually though, you'll just want each other exclusively - and you will never have seen it coming.

The voice of experience.

[jpmoore89]

I honestly think polygamy would be nice. But that is still a marriage between one man and one woman in each instance, just that the man is married to multiple women. To me the sex would then be loving because it would be respectful. But not in a threesome, foursome, and etc. At that point, its only for the sexual thrill.

While a guy could have and love multiple wives, he should only be with one at a time during a sexual act because he needs to devote all that energy and love toward one at a time so she is completely fulfilled. A loving sex act is about truly loving someone and being selfless during that act. The world makes love out to be a porn flick or an orgy and that's not even close to the reality of love.

[LeoPride93]

In all honestly, I would rather have a threesome with two people I don't care about, versus having a threesome with a boyfriend and someone else.

First off, I would *never* be okay with seeing my boyfriend having sexual contact with another girl. Secondly, if we were having a threesome with two guys, I would feel like I'm cheating, even though my partner would be in room. It would be a feeling I just couldn't shake. Plus, the last thing I would need is for him to say he's okay with it, then end up resenting me because he realized afterwards he really wasn't okay with it.

However, a threesome with two people I'm attracted to but have no feelings for, why not?

Threesomes with feelings involved, usually don't end well. I know there are couples who can do it, but I've never witnessed that.

My one friend and her boyfriend had a threesome with another girl, and she actually ended up freaking out the second her boyfriend started fucking the other girl. She went into a rage, apparently. Their relationship never recovered. She just couldn't get that thought out of her head.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I were just talking about this lol When we started dating I tried testing him to see what he would say, so I asked him if he'd want to have a threesome with my friend and I. He didn't get excited but just said " wait.. really?" lol Anyway, it didn't obviously happen and he passed the test becuase the way he processed it was amazing. He thought about the cons, the pros, and then told me if I really want to. Well 5 years later, I brought it up again lol And now he's wondering if I would ever really want to do it but like a threesome massage lol I know he loves me and it would turn me on to see him being into me more than the other girl because that's how much he loves me and is attracted to me so I guess that would be hot but I would never be able to actually do that lol Seems awkward, mentally draining, a lot of effot, and what if it turns into a mess lol

[Soft4u]

If im in a loving relationship or starting a relationship with a new guy not a chance, threesomes, foursomes aren't for me, never ever considered it. I think too much of myself & my guy.

[AwesomeCookie]

@Beniko no, never. No sanctity after such an act.

[djmzes]

Jealousy will start on the long run.

[Alex31]

No. It is a trying-to-make-it-okay cheating. And means he/she doesn't find you enough for himself/herself if they suggest a third person.

[HarrisDK]

No, id rather stay faithful to the one and develop our relationship in every matter if its sex or anything else but just the two of us ❤

[loganj]

When I was first married I would have said never-but as the years go by and a routine sets in things change and experimenting was kind of exciting-for me it was more like swapping thoughts and a threesome would have been me with 2 men but my husband who was interested in swapping also preferred a threesome with me and another woman-so we never did it-I think we all fantasize about it but most don't follow through

[aaa9501]

You want to be split roasted? 😏 What about having sex with another man while your husband watched?

[loganj]

@aaa9501 I would never allow my husband to watch me and can't imagine him wanting to either.

[racer17]

A definite yes. I've been in threesomes before with partners with 2 girls and 2 guys before.

[NutellaTrish]

Absolutely not

[TisforTori]

I wouldn’t be in a relationship where either of us being shared sexually was appealing to them. But that’s just my preference.

[DizzyDesii]

He and i discussed it before. We’re both way too jealous and neither of us would ever touch the same sex. So if t ever happened, it would be a foursome with a guy for me and a girl for him. However our sex life would have to literally be on the edge for us to consider it

[VIVANT]

yes, id consider it. 2 women or 2 guys, depends on the person really.

[yucychan]

No. I hate it.

[Jammie2]

No, never in a loving relationship. Group sex has its place; it should be casual. But I guess if you're going to break up with your partner anyway it could be good time to try it!

[Losalt]

2 or more girls?
Yes, definitivly.
2 guys?
I wouldn't want to take part myself, but I'd be ok with *her* trying that out as long as she asked me and got my ok every step of the way.

[Billywu]

You're gay

[Losalt]

@Billywu Um, no... I'm neither sexually nor romantically attracted to other men... The point here is that I'm open to a poly relationship of some kind or other. I do *not* mind sharing a partner pr say, although it would like I mentioned before require that me and her communicated well and that both where feeling ok about the men and/or women involved in such sharing. There are men I would *not* feel comfortable with sharing a girlfriend with, and there are behaviours that would have made me feel reluctant about said sharing as well.

[waynej200]

Im really glad you asked this, my wife should share her opinion too on this. But theirs a lot to cover. If your mans not bi, dont ask for 2 guy. here's why its a double standard. If you invite a girl, the girl can do stuff to you and him equally. If you have a guy, that guy is only there for you. Which will really be hard on your man. Cuz a 3 some isn't just for the benefit of one person, not just u, not just him. It should be equally worth it. If you want two dicks... buy a strap on and still have a girl join. As for the girl, dont do it with a girl thats unattractive, but not too attractive. If its both your first time, talk about every scenario first. And come to an agreement on it all.

[waynej200]

So, once you got all that figured out. I suggest you and the girl go off and start on your own but dont get carried away with out him! Just break the ice with her. Basically get comfortable with her, touching her. etc. Then, either call him in to join, or you to go to him. I suggest you tie him up, so you two basically use him as a toy but at some point during sex, cut him loose so he can also enjoy it the way he wants.

[waynej200]

The facts about him are. 9/10 times he's going to over think it. Get nervous, and cum quickly. Guys won't last long if their nervous. I suggest doing a lot of foreplay, with out him cumming, but the girls definitly cum. So they at least have theirs. Once the girls cum, everyone switch things up and get into actual intercoarse. Thats all I've got so far. I hope it helps, let me know how it goes. What worked what was bad. Not dirty details.

[waynej200]

The hardest part for my girl and I was, finding that 3rd girl. Very hard to do. Let me know if you find a girl, how you went about it thanks.

[Broheim]

Personally I have no problem inviting another guy. I get turned on by watching my (former) girlfriend getting fucked. I get turned on by the fact that she gets turned on. I'm 100% hetro and never touch the guy but I really enjoy watching her suck and get fucked. The way I see it, she's got 3 holes to choose from so even with 1 extra guy there's even room for 1 more. I'm confident enough to know what my girlfriend won't leave me because I let some dude fuck her. Probably the opposite is true. I even let her fuck a guy by herself once. Totally fine and I 100% trust her. We we're together for several years after and had a few adventures like that during. No problem at all as long as you're honest and open about your feelings. It's only cheating if you go behind your partner's back so as long as you're both honest and in on it, you can basically do whatever you both agree to. I would love for my next girlfriend to be open to similar experiences.

[TheQuest1981]

I wouldn't do it in the context of a loving and committed relationship. That's too destabilizing to the commitment aspect, which is part of what makes a relationship really worthwhile.

If I weren't in a relationship (like right now), I'd be SO down. 2 girls, 2 guys, I'm up for whatever! hah! Already did it once before and it was unbelievable.

[WYKindly]

Three other women? Wouldn't that be cheating?

[kaajal]

Nope.

[Genie23]

Ewww, no. The thought itself makes me feel disgusted.

[SouthernFisherette]

No. It ruins the relationship. I would only do that if I didn't really love the person I was with. When you truly love someone, you would never want to share them sexually with anyone else.

[Ahsthen]

Not so. The real poly folks love their SO AND others. I have.

[SouthernFisherette]

Huh? I don't understand that sentence at all. Lol. Can you reword or retype or something

[Ahsthen]

The caps boggled you. Try again.

[ksoma]

I don't believe in casual sex, so if I ever have a threesome, it would only be while in a loving relationship, where my gf/wife and I picked a person we both trusted and were attracted to, and invited them in.

I wouldn't merely spring the idea, but it would be something we had discussed, as with other sexual interests, as well as non-sexual things. Communication and understanding matters, and if you love someone, you should try to communicate about it.
If my significant other had no such interest, I'd never push it, and I'd be happy to be monogamous.

And it would be two women. I think that, if you have a threesome, the person brought in should be shared by the committed partners. Well, I'm not attracted to men, so I wouldn't be "sharing" him, I'd be, at best, having sex with a woman while he also had sex with her. With another woman (if my gf/wife were bi and interested, as I said), we would both be interacting with the person we brought in. It would be three people having sex with each other, and not 2 people having sex with one person.

[LaurenGrace]

I've had a lot of 3somes and gangbangs.
Mostly with my husband and other guys have had quite a few with hubby and another women aswell.

[jashado18]

Prefer two dicks or two chicks... With dicks?

[LaurenGrace]

2 guys. They can plow my pussy at the sametime... it feels fantasic

[jashado18]

I have DPd a girl a time or two. My problem is my head is so much bigger it kinda makes the other pop out

[anthonyweiner509]

You sound like a hell of a lot of fun. How many guys in your gangbangs?

[LaurenGrace]

Depends on the gangbang. 8 is the most I've had swaping and changing. 5 is the best number at a time. Have had a couple nights at parties were guys would join and leave the room when they were done and their place in the 5 was taken by someone else that night was upwards of 15-18 different guys that had a turn with me

[anthonyweiner509]

Just, wow. Please tell me your hubby was watching this!

[LaurenGrace]

he's been a part of most gangbangs I've had since we met.. the 1 with the 15 different guys he was part of but we were not a couple at the time

[anthonyweiner509]

Hmmm Did he meet you at the gangbang, or did you just go with him? (You can answer here or with PM. Up to you.)

[LaurenGrace]

No i met him at a party.. found out a few days later he was friends brother that she was trying to set me up with anyway... but i found him myself :).

[LaurenGrace]

First gangbang i had with him involved we werent a couple we were just kind of hooking up

[anthonyweiner509]

Now I get it. I was just trying to paint a picture. In my mind, it would be really hot for you to be escorted to a gangbang by your bf/hubby. You arrive arm in arm and he offers you up to the crowd.

[LaurenGrace]

My unoffical 30th birthday party went a lot like that.

[ZanyInternetName]

Sure, I'd be interested in it as a one time thing. Also, three guys. :P

[Ahsthen]

Nice. Go fot the gusto!

[Logorithim]

No, I wouldn't. It's not my thing.

[OlderAndWiser]

There is SO much potential for harm and you are taking that chance for an hour or two of physical pleasure. Seems stupid to me. . . like smoking cigarettes.

[Unit1]

I agree with you my friend!

[Christpaquin]

I don't think I would like except if its a woman and that my wife is not enough bisexual to have a crush on her.

[Wildflower8]

NO WAY! Can you check out my question please?

[Kitten967]

Already done it, it was fun. We've even talked about having a girlfriend we share

[Lirik]

I kinda have mixed feelings about this. Since i wouldn't be too fond of the idea of another man touching her, i dont think she would like me having sex with other girls either

[BiggerNotBetter]

I was considering a threesome with another woman my wife really likes. This woman told me her experience has been that having sex with someone you know as a friend messes up the relationship, so we didn't pursue it. I'd rather have her as a friend than a former friend with whom I had sex.

[Ellie423]

not my thing... ik people can be in relationships with multiple people and be happy, (polyamorous), but just inviting someone in who neither has an emotional attraction to won't end well usually

[SnapTsch]

Nope
Not my thing
I'd consider it a failing relationship if I was having sexual inclinations for someone other than my partner or having the thoughts of sharing her with someone.

[jack187625]

Interesting the amount of people who said they don't/won't share. Seems like they haven't considered that they might be the one being shared...

[SarahsSummer]

Probably the only way I’d consider it.

[DaRealEazyE]

Wym?

[SarahsSummer]

@DaRealEazyE huh?

[DaRealEazyE]

Wym. huh?

[DaRealEazyE]

Wym. is what you mean

[SarahsSummer]

@DaRealEazyE WTF is Wym?

[DaRealEazyE]

It means what you mean

[SarahsSummer]

@DaRealEazyE buh bye loser.

[Boob_Boy]

It means "What You Mean?"

[SarahsSummer]

@Boob_Boy also known as what do you mean.

[Hellobeautiful33]

I don't see the difference in a guy cheating in general whether the girlfriend is present or not it's just an excuse for a guy to cheat because of course 2 guys and one girl is never okay #doublestandard

[MrNameless]

if its consensual, its not cheating

[Hellobeautiful33]

You're right in that but if she says yes and truly doesn't care then she isn't really in love with him lol

[summiter]

My girlfriend in my junior year of college told me that her roommate (who was way hot) wanted to join us for sex. I was a little nervous about it, but it turned out to be a fun afternoon and evening. We spent the entire afternoon and into the night naked and playing a few games (truth or dare) and of course the orgasms were incredible. Of course I had to take a few breaks for food, beer and to "recharge" but it was way fun. The next day I was kinda sore but I had a big smile.

[ThreeSevensSalvo]

First off, always two girls. The male ego is easily damaged. Second, the fantasy is nice but for some guys the reality can be intimidating. Know your partner and all will be fine.

[over_the_rainbow]

i wouldn't be opposed to it. I would probably prefer two guys but two girls sounds good to.

[Markfish]

Yeah all women are bisexual

[over_the_rainbow]

no they are not. that is a ridiculous statement to make

[Markfish]

Well you at least are. And several scientific peer reviewed studies have claimed so indiana.edu/.../Chivers_Seto_Blanchard_2007.pdf herer is one

[over_the_rainbow]

obviously I didn't read it all, but in my book to have any kind of sexuality means to be attracted to someone not only sexual but also romantically. that means I would be interested in having a relationship with a girl, and trust me I really don't

[Markfish]

You mean you wouldn't have a romantic relationship with a girl? Anyway, romantic attraction and who you love has by very definition nothing to do with SEXUAL orientation, it deals solely with SEXUAL attraction.

[over_the_rainbow]

I guess that differs from person to person. I wouldn't be able to have a relationship solely on sexual attractions

[WhistleThuslyTWEETs]

But you are sexually attract to girls. So it's bisexuality.

[SmoMan71]

My girlfriend and I are always on the lookout for someone new to play with.

[BeWithMe]

Oh? Lol

[SmoMan71]

@BeWithMe Is that strange?

[Xoxoroxy]

No, I feel like it could bring up. potential resentment later on in the relationship. Probably on my part. And it will probably. make me a bit confused. And I just don't like the idea of my partner fucking someone else. Especially. if it was a partner I truly loved

[AndyGillard]

No, despite being with two girls is awesome. I wouldn't do it with a partner. Love over lust anyday.

[melanieeeB]

Nope

[Mi2mi2a]

I don't share neither with another man or woman.

[Real_Name]

It depends. If I love the person no. If I don't then yes.

[zaipei]

Not really, there are more cons than pros for threesomes.

[Carolynn]

I think if you're in a loving relationship and you're both happy that you really did shouldn't Muk with it by bringing in a third party. The times I have heard about when people I know have done that never end well. There's always Jealousy on one side or the other and when the threesome is over there's always suspicion and paranoia about cheating with that person and private. In my opinion it is bad news and I wouldn't ever go there.

[DodgersGM]

I don't like saying the word 'never', but...

... a threesome is something I'll never want. I'm ready for the next woman I sleep with to be the last.

[FinalVow]

no I wouldn't not even with someone I didn't love

[DrkNess]

Not a decision for one person to make. If birth agree then yes else no.

[sawno]

If she was bisexual and wanted to invite a girl i would be open to it as long as we all have good chemistry. In other cases i am very monogamous.

[KDria]

Never. The only time I’d be open to one is if I was single

[EPunn]

I don't think so, I only want to be intimate with one person.

[wankiam]

been there, done that and loved it

[CandacePerry]

Nope. not my thing. Only me & my boyfriend can have sex when I already to. not very good with sharing.

[CandymanJ]

Why? So I can disappoint TWO women at the same time?

[cherryphi82]

Hell no

[dothejohnwall97]

Good girl

[dothejohnwall97]

Message me, I want to debate about a topic of interest

[Robsinsf53]

Never. I've known three sets of twins and two are divorced because of having a threesome. I wouldn't do it. Think beforehand...

[BatmansWife]

Yes, I would. But obviously if he's ok with it.

[theBatman007]

Lol your username

[mystery134]

Done it it brings you closer as a couple if done right just make sure you respect and set rules

[loveshaka231]

Absolutely I think the love that sexy people engaging in physical expression music part 1 ordained and blessed by God touching caressing sucking waking engaging in the beautiful form of lovemaking and when you engage another person in to that mix with has the same high art form of expression it's like a musical sonnet Mozart I can close my eyes and see this beautiful painting Michelangelo just think about it when you really engage and become one with someone 1 2 3 4 especially if it's based on love and admiration and always respect and if you have a hi attraction for each other within their threesome oh man it's almost a spiritual thing everybody take your time and just explore each other body it's almost better than drugs but he has some wine and a popper enjoy enjoy enjoy is there anybody out there that would like to enjoy it with me tonight or well this morning I am here already I'm just waiting on you and you