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Sexual Health Guys, is my fetish a turn off?
lisaasks Xper 4
So I'm into weird stuff, like bdsm and rough sex. Is this a turn off for guys? I've heard boys make fun of their ex's for wanting to be tied up but it gets me so hot. Never done anything other then normal sex before and I don't know if/how I should go about it
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9 45I personally do not favor rough sex. I'm afraid of hurting the woman, and I prefer not to. However, I may be willing to do so if she really desires.
So, you... kinda don't really believe anything, here, really, then. This is an awkward position, this... this "not picking a side" thing. That's gna force HER to force YOU to pick a side. You know how women do that, right? They don't do it by sitting down at a table with you and negotiating, like boys. Nope. They do it with whiny-ass passive aggression. Annoy, annoy, whine, goad, see if they can annoy you into it. Not a good position, dude. That kinda makes you the submissive, and her the passive-aggressive dominant, and no one's happy. Ever see unhappy marriages? Unhappy shrewy wife, unhappy pussy-whipped husband? SAME DYNAMIC. You're the man, dude. Even picking the wrong side, is better than not picking a side. Don't sit on the fence. The barbed wire will cut yr nuts off.
@redeyemindtricks I've never seen unhappy marriages. Maybe I haven't made up my mind yet? Did you think of that?
Well, think on it, at least. We are not as delicate as you think. You seen childbirth? Dat some real shit. Thought experiment, in your head. Like a tax form. Line 1: Female pedestrian, hit by car. Imagine minimum impact to cause injury. Line 2: Imagine you, haulin' off and hitting a woman, as hard as you'd let yourself. Line 3: Subtract line 1 from line 2. If less than zero, you ain't gna hurt her. Non-concern. There goes that excuse. Yep. I called it an excuse. Just think about it. If you are afraid you'll hurt her... what are you really afraid of? HMMM. Maybe someone needs to work on self-restraint. Huh? Maybe. Who'da thought. Maybe you could even become a better man. By letting yourself hit women. Mindfuck, that one. Just think about it. Self-discovery does not happen overnight.
I find most guys are into this kinda thing
on occasion, or every time?
Occasion I'm also for intimacy like cuddling and being romantic, I just have a fiery side
you should ask a man that you are very submissive, then talk about the kinkiest thing he has done, then tell him what you like, have your room all set up and then have some fun
Fuck no. You should be a challenge. You should make men discover these sides of you. You should engage them, in competition, which is friendly competition, but is still, basically, competition. Competition that YOU WANT TO LOSE, but you're not gna fold. Be a "bitch". What a stupid word. Bitch just means not-doormat. That's what it means. Part of the enjoyment-- hell, *most* of the enjoyment-- is being subdued. Being outdone. Verbally, physically, whatever. Doesn't matter. Losing is a rush. Being outdone is a rush. It is really, really, hard to beat me at things. I usually destroy people in competitions, even friendly ones. That's why it feels so good to lose. It's no fun to knock a doormat onto the ground. Because a doormat, is already on the ground. That's no fun for the doormat, nor for the person. No fun. Be a challenge. Be a game. Have fun. Don't be a pushover.
@redeyemindtricks Being a bitch also implies having a generally toxic tone, and being antagonistic, rude, loud, tactless, and getting what you want by increasing volume and yelling like a child who had their toy train taken from them. Yes, some women do operate on that level, unfortunately. They label themselves as "emotional" and they believe it is their "right" as a "woman" to do that, but in reality, they are just extremely immature. That's what the term "bitch" is reserved for.
@redeyemindtricks bitch = asshole, men don't wan't to be doormats either. you probably do not have many lasting relationships do you? women will naturally test men to see what they are made of, but men who value themselves will put a woman like that in her place, or forever be a doormat
::shakes little shreds of hater off hands:: ::shreds rinse off one hand onto other hand:: ... Next?
@redeyemindtricks was a hunch, congrats on your commitment.
Well. Note how wrong you were. About that hunch. You're gna be THAT wrong... about lots of other things. About women. Lots and lots and lots of other things. Gna be like being 12 years old again. Girls? What the hell that be? You may even be THAT wrong... about yourself. Who you are. Scary shit. Some people just run, and run, and run from it. Then they die.
@redeyemindtricks it's nice to be wrong
Well, that's how you win at life. You go out and do shit wrong. Then you learn from it. If you did everything right all day long, you just wasted a whole day. (: Personal growth. And, you're being a gentleman now. This is duly noted. Good. A gentleman. That first reaction of yours, was bullshit. This is better, like you're sitting with the adults again. <3 Good shit.
@redeyemindtricks those were doormat replies
Well, whatever, call 'em what you want. You got weird on my ass, I called you on it, now you're being a normal human being again. See? Awesomeness! I like. On the internets, some people are really committed to this whole snittyness thing. Ick, eewww. Nope. Dust yourself off, get up, shake hands. See, I'm not a bitch. I'm actually totally not a bitch at all. Not even. I mean. As far as submissiveness, I am the big leagues. The all-star, major leagues. Big challenge. But that's a different animal. Otherwise, I am surprisingly supportive. What the hell am I doing here, anyway? For free, even. LOL. It's a dance. And it should be fun. Even smacking her across the face, still a dance. Still fun. You and her make the rules. Yr mama's rules don't count any more, you're grown now. Tx for being a gentleman, there.
not at all
That's one of the most common fetishes to have and I think plenty of guys out there are perfectly willing to indulge you
Yours is by far the most common female kink, in my experience.
It's QUITE hot!
nothing that uncommon about it, most men fancy dominating a girl
That stuff creeps me out. Rough sex is fine, but BDSM stuff is just odd.
Nope. Totally normal. Nothing wrong at all.
Some like it, some dont.
Its a common female kink.
fifty shades fo grey made this a popular fetish soo why so concerned?
rough sex, what you mean? Explain
Like role play i guess Submissive and dominant Being commanded and manhandled and stuff
do you mean like stepping on ones balls or some stuff like that? Or being tied to a chair and pinching nipples, gah, i don't know please let me know like role play as in police officer, but ya still having sex? I don't mind role play, but i don't know how far the bdsm comes in
No not weird i like that kind of thing
It's hot to me
Not at all ! I'm into that too , there are a lot of guys into that so don't worry
you sound like a fun time, good fetish
bloody hell who hate rough sex... I enjoy it if she ask I ruin her very hard
I would say its a big turn on as well. Have had some pretty rough sex and it was amazing
Some guys get into things like and some or sceard to try it